We start off as pretty selfish individuals, if you think about it. When you're born you have an innate knowledge that you are unable to actually care for yourself and that by crying your head off, things tend to get done. If you cry you get fed, changed, held, rocked, and more. If you cry a little harder you can really see people in your life go into action; sometimes they'll put you a car and drive around the block or maybe pass you off to a younger sibling if you've taken things too far. Either way, we learn very early on that we want what we want and that's all that matters. But aren't you supposed to grow out of that?
My kids are at an age where they seem to be regressing. If they don't get what they want it seems I'm not as great of a mom as I was only seconds earlier. I look at them in disbelief trying to understand how this happens. I turn down one stinking request of theirs and lose all of my motherhood credit in an instant. I personally am starting to get sick and tired of it. In fact, I'll just say it, "That's total bulls%#!" I have been sacrificing for my kids since birth and all these years later it's still not enough.
"Hey Mom, can you take me to so and so's house and then pick me up when I'm good and ready to come home?" "Mom, could you call so and so and see when they'll be home because I'm bored and I don't want to be at my own house anymore?" "Mom, can we go to the mall right now, I kind of feel like getting out of the house?" My question is, "What about me?" Does anybody care about how I feel? I have cramps, would you mind making me some tea? "I'm having a rough day, mind rubbing my back?" The bottom line is that they really don't care. I mean they don't want to see you totally broken down and crying in front of them (I've done that), but ultimately they couldn't care less.
MommyNoire Readers, I'm reaching out to you for advice. Please tell me what you're supposed to do when your kids are totally selfish!
Words by Sid Powell
Sid Powell is the NAACP-nominated screenplay writer of 'Somebody's Child', a mother of two, and the owner of SIDPo Productions. Read more about how SIDPo Productions is 'Changing Everything' at www.sidpoproductions.com.