This article could not have been written better. I stress these things myself and how i raise my daughter. Thank you for shining that late on this very important topic.

On point with it all. I’m the father of three girls. All that was mention is exactly what I worry about.

You know there are white little girls too. Pretty biased with your photo selections

God this post frustrated me so badly. Granted I’m only 21 and don’t have any children of my own, but I can tell you based from the fact that my mother sounds like she was exactly like this, this post is ridiculous. First off, looking through their Facebook and monitoring their activity even if done with good intentions, most likely your daughter is not going to see it that way and the only thing that is going to come from it is your daughter no longer trusting you, therefore making it less likely she will come to you for help when she has a real problem. Next don’t get too hung up on what they are listening to. My mom grounded me when I was in 6th grade and deleted all the music off if my MP3 player when I was in middle school because I was listening to DMX on my computer through the speakers when the lyrics said “suck my dick” which is when she flipped out. Up until that point I had no idea that is what he said or what that even meant, that is until I looked it up to see why my mom got so angry. Now even though I agree with you that teenagers or whatever should not be wanting Coach or other name brand items, I do think that instead of denying them it and telling them they are superficial for wanting those items, use it as an opportunity to teach her responsibility and the value of a doller. If she’s old enough, encourage her to get a job. If not give her chores to do for an allowance and tell her to save up and buy it for herself, that way she will learn how much effort it takes to make money and that it doesn’t grow on trees. Additionally, the amount of time it takes for her to save up that money, once she reaches the goal amount it’s very likely she will be more hesitant to spend it on something so unnecessary such ad a purse and continue saving up for other things. My parents did this with me starting when I was 6. 6 years old I wanted a Razr Scooter, now I used all of the money I saved for 15 years and just paid off the mortgage on my own condo in Denver. So the tattoo, piercing thing. It’s not unusual for teens to want those things at the time because they think it will make them cool, and at that age? Yeah it will be idolized. I wanted the same thing when I was 16, when I was 18 I got my first tattoo on my wrist that writes “every saint has a past, every sinner has a future.” And I have no regrets about it. When I was 19 over spring break in college a friend and I got our tongues pierced, and you know what, both of us took them out not 2 months later because it made us look trashy and unprofessional. You have got to let them make their own mistakes (to an extent, if they are planning on robbing a place, yeah you should probably step in). Now I get I may have taken extremes with these and that maybe you think I just grew up in a different time or whatever. But in middle and high school I had failing grades, I was expelled from middle school for selling alcohol to a classmate. I got in trouble through out high school for drugs and a whole list of things, I even (although not proud of it) lost my virginity when I was 13, all of this when I was under my moms parenting style, when they decided to try my fathers take on parenting, which was stepping back and providing guidance and advice rather than literally controlling my life in every aspect and only stepping in when absolutely necessary. My senior year I had straight As, got into the college of my choice where I am not studying medicine, I moved out 3 days after I graduated high school at 18, I am now 20 years old in my second semester of my junior year, planning on going into the Air Force for grad school and hopefully end up working with the nfl in the future. I don’t know why the hell I just went on this 700 page rant about things that don’t involve me whatsoever and that is probably just going to get negative feedback but I guess maybe just try the back off approach and give it a shot, of course at first they may go crazy from the freedom but I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised. And again I get most of my most is about teaching responsibility and this post is about them maturing too quick but who said that maturity at a young age is bad? If that’s what makes them happy an doesn’t hurt them or others, I don’t see a reason to intervene.

“little girl” is too broadly defined in this post. an 8 year old should obviously should not be going to raves, or a 12 year old shouldn’t be overly concerned with having massive curves. And realistically speaking, 12 and 16 are only a few years apart but at the same time worlds away.

Idk y ppl t makin a big deal about the pics being of all black chics. Its true that these things plague kids of all religions n races. this is the world we live in today n some of it we cant help .social media shouldnt teach ur kids we should. N we all should be very involved in what r kids r doing n when some of this is the parents fault. Ur kid cant know what booty poppin is if u dont allow this stuff to be viewed in ur house or monitor ur kids internet access. No 5 yr old should have A weave or fake nails again parents fault. Kids r growing up way to fast yes n its sad b/c when theyre 10 they wanna be 20 n when theyre 30 they wanna be 10 again. Some of these things r outlandish n insane y r our kids tooo grown because we allow it we cant completely control everything but we can control most of this stuff esp when they r under age 16.after that its really tough but hopefully by age 16 we have instilled good pure things in our kids that we dont have that much to worry about. if we stay good role models n close with our kids to help guide them. From what i understand blk ppl well most of them throw their kids out of the house when they turn 18. An 18 yr old is not an adult u cant expect this sweet lil innocent thing that we wanna keep our kids as always to go from this to an adult in 5 min. We all need to love each other n spend more time with our kids guide ,teach,love them n accept them n teach them to respect themselves n everyone n thing else. i think thats a start to this prob social media n peer presure is always gonna be there n so is hate n ignorance we all need to rise above it.what message r we sendin if were more concerned with the color of the skin of the ppl in the pics rather than the issue at hand or this is a blk site or a white site. Most web sites r designed for white ppl really come on is tv guide for white ppl twitter or face book ?? We all need to think about things before we say them. we all bleed n breathe the same way all have the same ability to feel the same things as well im sure some lil white girl loves n adores beyonce or some lil blk girl loves taylor swift n idolizes her. is that wrong ?why dont we put color n religion aside n deal with girls as girls n boys as boys going thro the trials n tribulations in a young adolescents life. honestly if ur not part of the solution ur part of the problem.we should take a lesson from our kids n grow up.

This article is ridiculous. Kids are growing with the times. Actual things you should worry about with tweens growing up too fast: Pregnancy and intravenous drug use. Otherwise, they’re probably just exploring themselves which is a TOTALLY NORMAL part of growing up.

Very good advice regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status… All little girls will confront one or more of these scenarios, and as parents, we don’t always remember that we, too, were up against those same challenges at that age.

Little girls that are raised by whores have whore tendencies. Same goes for the lame bitches.

First off, I’m white. Whatever. second, I absolutely see A need to be mindful about these issues. Every parent has their own way, but not every way is a good one. I work in the public school system and I see what these young people today have to endure and its heart breaking. Daddies in jail, moms on drugs, abused by family members, neglected, malnourished, exposed to the worst parts of life at a tender age. I think young girls are sexualized so early and taught thier bodies are the most important aspect of who they are. Young men are taught that they can treat women like objects and told to be tough. We need to teach our young people that they are valuable, that they can amount to something. you don’t need coach purses to teach the value of a dollar. Teach your kids hard work, hard play , respect for themselves and others, allow them to be creative and express themselves but let them become their true selves, not an image created by Society. Black white whatever, just be your authentic self, do good and be good, and for heavens sake, pay attention, be involved, children are amazing but they need guidance to make the right decisions and they want you in their business they just don’t want to admit it!

I notice all the inane comments about race, about a “white” site, etc., etc., etc. So we have a “Black History Month” – why is that? If there were a “White History Month” you can bet it would be considered racist. Of course, there is “Latin Night” or “week” at the ballparks, etc., but if I wanted to start an “Italian Night” or “week” or whatever, I would be considered racist as well. How about if we recognize the greatness in our own cultures, but do as the early immigrants did – assimilate our cultures into the American culture? After all, we live here, in America, not in “Little Africa” or “Little China” or “Little Cuba”. All of you need to get over yourselves & be Americans, not some little separatist group who accuses all others of being “racist” – because this only proves that all of you are indeed racist…

Is this satire? If it’s not I’m thoroughly disgusted by the heaping pile of slut shaming you just dumped on both your daughter and impressionable parents. Good luck raising a confident daughter while you make her feel like she’s not a proper lady if she isn’t identifying with your archaic value system.

If u require this dumb list to recognize your daughter is trying to grow up too fast then let her grow up because you are too much of a dumbass to be a parent.
If I was of a darker skin color I would be bulls*** this website and article makes your mothers seem like idiots and your daughters seem like a superficial skanks.
Jus sayin

I’m sure stuff like this happens everywhere but overall I think kids are going in the opposite direction, and aren’t getting credit for their good choices. I think with news and the media being more prominent in our lives we get to hear of any and all instances of kids who are making these poor choices. I had my first kiss at 20 and that was a choice. My friends were similar. My sister and her friends are popular at their high school and they have similar values in fact being innocent is accepted more at our high school than when I was there 10 years ago. Btw I’m black but didn’t know this was a black site, but my thoughts apply to all races as my friends are American and we don’t see race as a

the “being raped” ending was bummer

I must comment due to the ignorance that I see here. Rather your white black or any other color under the rainbow, some of the simple ideas in the post can help you. Not every principle applies to every teen, however I notice many of the things above did affect me personally as an adolescent. Rather it is a Black Barbie like Nicki or a Monstar like Lady Gaga these images can do harm to youth. Yes they are talented but not role models.

The heart of Mommynoire in my opinion is to help improve the family lives of African American women. It may be selective however sites that I frequent like Babble.com rarely include information that is helpful to an African American Woman like me. Hey to my Caucasian friends not able to embrace other colors of the rainbow that may be where you want to go. I frequent them all and take in any information that I can in order to gain different perspectives in raising my little ones. I encourage you to do the same.

First off, this site is impossible to view on a mobile device. Enough with the popups and popovers. My gosh just stop. As for the racism rant, idiot it’s a African American targeted content site. Targeting isn’t racism, its a business model. 3rd, when did parents become such push overs? Hasn’t anyone ever used “no”? My mom used it plenty. The best thing you could do for your kid is to stop letting them watch brain corroding television! That stupid propaganda box is probably the source of 99% of the influence on your kid. If you want your daughter barefoot and pregnant at 15 then I suggest you keep letting her watch. Parents have to learn to be parents. I see so many women trying to live vicariously through their kids. It sickening. If your kid ends up retarded.. Don’t ask why.. Just look in the mirror, and you will see the biggest retard of them all!