I was surprised when my mother voiced her opinion about pregnant teens out of the blue the other day. She felt they should attend schools with other teens that are also pregnant and not be allowed to receive their education in ‘general population’ so to speak. Initially, I felt her thoughts were a bit archaic but I had to consider the fact that her school of thought was heavily influenced by generational beliefs. Her views are based on the fact that girls who aren’t pregnant may become distracted by pregnant teens and misled to believe that it’s something for which to strive. In other words, she thinks your un-pregnant teen may get the idea that it’s “cute” to be with child.
I remember being pregnant my senior year in college and wondering why all of my girlfriend’s moms gave me the same fake plastic smile whenever I came around. Now I realize it was because they were praying day and night that I would not shove my “pregnant-ness” on their daughter. I also had several clients when I was a Social Worker who were pregnant and it broke my heart to know the road they had ahead of them. I have frequented high schools that looked more like OB/GYN offices because of the number of pregnant teens walking the halls. But wait, shouldn’t we be applauding these girls for sticking it out and trying to graduate? I think my biggest concern is the liability that exists with a pregnant girl trying to navigate through the insanely busy hallways subjected to the horse play that naturally occurs between class changes. At the end of the day the goal is to educate our teenagers about abstinence and safe sex, but once it’s too late, do you think pregnant girls should be exiled Scarlet Letter style?
Words By: Sid Powell