I'm gonna be honest here, when I found out I was having a boy, my heart sank a little. It's not that my husband and I didn't want a boy - in fact we were thrilled to have our first child be a boy so he could assume the role of an older brother, something my guy enjoyed growing up in a home with sisters. Yet I couldn't help but think about all of the "what if" scenarios that come with raising a young black man. What if he is one of the only children of color among his friends? What if the cops stop him because he fits a certain profile? As much as I will try my best to protect him from the evils of life, you just can't stop every bad thing from occurring. My own husband has been pulled over a couple of times by our local police and he wears a polo and Dickies for heaven's sake! Granted, it can happen to anyone, I can't help but think about those routine situations that turn for the worst when people are caught off guard.
Thankfully, I am the daughter of a now-retired police sergeant who can not only give me advice on how to be a good parent, but the skinny from a cop's perspective on how his grandson can handle run-ins with the police. Obviously, home training will come into play as some do bring it on themselves, but I am talking about those times when a young man did nothing wrong.
Have you or someone you know been stopped by the police for no apparent reason? What did you or they do?