Yes, I’m taking him back and please mind your d*mn business! Have you been in this predicament ladies? Poured your heart and soul out to friends and family about the man you love only to take him back after he did the unthinkable and cheated. Hindsight is 20/20 and if you’ve experienced this, you probably wished you had kept your big mouth shut. I empathize, I really do. Learning to keep your own counsel is an acquired taste. I think I learned to start doing this sometime back in early 2000 when I realized that some things just don’t need to be shared. I had to grow up and understand that the reason I was whining and crying to girlfriends was because I wanted permission to make stupid decisions and not feel guilty. In truth, you don’t have to get advice on something so personal and private.
Let’s look at a few scenarios:
Your husband of 10 years cheats while you are going through a rough patch in the marriage. You were holding back on sex and affection and he admits (they never do) that he stepped out.
Do you take him back?
(This is tricky. If he has been a solid husband for the duration of the marriage until this point, taking him back is something I would consider if we had truly reached a certain level in love.)
Your boyfriend who hasn’t been working since you met him cheats on you with your sister, neighbor, mother or cousin. Do you take him back?
(I’m hoping we’re all on the same page here…)
You find out that your boyfriend of two years cheated on you during the first six to eight months of the relationship. Do you take him back?
(Hmm, I call those first 6 months the gray area. In my opinion, men will allow it to stay murky and gray for as long as you let them. If the boundaries of the relationship were clearly defined you could go either way with this one. However, if he truly sort of kind of slipped up during a time when no one could definitely say that the two of you were exclusive, I say he gets a pass.)
At the end of the day you have to know yourself and your mate. So ladies, have you ever given a man who cheated on you a second chance?
I have and I’m better for it.
Words By: Sid Powell