Abusive relationships are far more common than you think. While many women feel trapped and remain silent, there are others, like me, who have decided to speak up, in hopes to help just one soul.
It was several years after my divorce followed by a good amount of counseling, when I realized that I was in an abusive relationship. I ignored the signs and while desperately looking for acceptance, began to think that I was the crazy one!
Be wary of the signs, and if you’re a bit unsure, take a minute to learn from my experience. It is never too late to move on. Things will get better!
10 signs that you may be in an abusive relationship:
1. Your partner tries to control you: You should feel free to do whatever you want with your life. Abuse has many forms. If your partner is playing the role of a puppeteer, controlling your every move, he is manipulating you. This is a clear sign of emotional abuse.
2. Your partner blames you for the misconduct: If you have to ask your friends and family if you’re partners behavior is abusive, chances are, you are being abused!
3. Your partner uses excessive force to restrain or control you: At no point in a relationship is this okay! No man or woman should ever intentionally raise their hand to strike or use force to restrain their partner.
4. You make yourself available to your partner no matter what, despite the personal cost, just to avoid confrontation.
5. When you do talk to your significant other, he puts you down and makes you feel stupid.
6. Your partner tries to isolate you, insisting that your time revolve around him, resulting in the loss of relationships with friends and family.
7. Your partner tends to have a quick fuse, which makes you leery to talk to your partner about everyday happenings.
8. You find yourself making excuses for your partners’ behavior.
9. Your partner forces you to have sex, when you do not want to. Even if you are married, it’s rape!
10. Your partner repeatedly threatens to leave you; making you feel that you need them.
Sound familiar?! If this article hits a nerve and you feel trapped, speak up and reach out. No one can help you if they do not know what is going on.
I left my ex with a 2 week old baby and have never looked back. My child deserved better. I deserved better. And if you can relate to this article, you deserve better as well.
Words By: Ruthie Hawkins