Since I had my children young, I’ve always felt that a boob lift in my 30s was going to be a gift to myself, a way to reclaim some of that youth that I lost when I spent my early 20s elbow-deep in diapers. And I wondered if I was alone in this.
I asked the mothers on my blog’s Facebook page if they’ve considered plastic surgery — either a boob lift or liposuction. Out of the 30 people who responded, the vast majority were ready to go under the knife if the right opportunity presented itself.
“I already told my husband I am definitely getting some nips and tucks when our boys go to college,” one mom said. “I’m going to be that hot mom who takes them grocery shopping for their dorm room!”
Another mom said,
“My boobs and my tummy sag. I love my kids but my body looks like it’s been through a war. And no matter how much I diet and exercise its not getting better.”
And I can relate. As I’ve written earlier about my post-baby body struggles, it’s real out here in Stretchmark Land. After I saw Kate Gosselin (from “Jon & Kate Plus 8″) go under the knife and get a tummy tuck that completely eliminated that post-pregnancy sag that so many mothers complain about, the idea of hitting that “restart” button has been appealing. Why not get a few areas tightened up, especially if it will help you feel good about yourself?
One reason of course: Money. Most moms won’t even commit to buying themselves new make-up or clothes, so how do we figure we’re willing to drop four (or even five) figures on something like elective surgery? And since plastic surgery is just that (surgery), how many of us feel comfortable taking the risk to go under general anesthesia for something that is not life-threatening?
Now that I’m a few years older, I’m reconsidering. Is it really that serious? Not to knock the women who do go through with plastic surgery, but can’t I just swing by Victoria’s Secret and call it a night? If my husband loves me the way I am, who am I trying to impress?
I know my body will probably not look exactly the same as it did before I got pregnant, but that’s part of life. We get older, things shift, body parts get softer or a little lower and that’s okay. We live in a culture that is youth obsessed and filled with unrealistic body images—we have to learn that it’s okay to love our bodies in whatever form they’re in.
As for me, I don’t think I’ll be signing up to get “the girls” hoisted up anytime soon. There’s other things to worry about—like when they are going to invent a cream that completely erases stretch marks.
What do you think? Would you consider plastic surgery if cost wasn’t a factor? Why or why not?
Words By: Tara Pringle-Jefferson