No one teaches new mothers how to do it all. It takes practice to learn how to navigate through this new life. Rely on your emotions to gage how you are fairing in the balancing act. Are you feeling totally overwhelmed, totally exhausted, ill or unhappy? Trust me; it’s normal to feel all of these emotions at different points in time. However, the goal is to elevate yourself from feeling down in the dumps. After all, you need to be productive at work, attentive to your partner and friends, all while keeping yourself together. Try applying the 4 tips below:
1) Define your needs. Be honest with yourself about what you need to feel supported and loved. Have you ever wanted to throw a shoe at your significant other? I have! It was because I expected him to fulfill my wants without me telling him. No one promised to be telepathic.
2) You don’t have to be super woman (although it may feel like it). If you have a ton on your plate with work, home and family, it helps to have a schedule and to be organized. Be purposeful about your time and plan ahead. No one has to get your process but you (but please clue in your partner).
3) Learn how to say no and be better about boundaries. We often want to be everything to everyone. As a new mom with a career, this is not the time. Let it go.
4) Move your body and rejuvenate your spirit. You have to do something that pleases YOU. It helps if it involves getting out of the house and moving your body. Whether it’s a long stroll, salsa dancing or a power-walk at the mall, you will feel better if you do something that makes your soul smile and your body feel alive.
Words By: Dr. Lisa Hollingsworth Upshaw
Practice: Wellbody Innovations